Relationships with Others (Good or Godly?)

By: Nancy Abiera

 

“A new commandment I give unto you, that ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.” John 13:34

“We are God’s Masterpiece. Therefore, let us treasure each other with love, honor and gentleness.”

 

In the past few months, I described to you readers the importance of our personal and intimate relationship with God, our Creator. This is the first and most important relationship because this is where we originated from. We are from the very beginning created in the image and likeness of God. This personal relationship with God through His Son, Jesus Christ, restored us back to God’s original intent to make us be like Him. The finished work of Jesus on the Cross cancelled our fallen nature.

In short, we regain our God-nature and we become spiritually renewed in spite that our spirit died when Adam and Eve fell into sin. We became alive again in the spirit. In other words, the first Adam caused us to be spiritually dead resulting in death and curse. On the other hand, Jesus, the Second Adam caused us to be spiritually alive cancelling the curses and giving us blessings. This included the blessings of new purpose, identity and destiny as well as prosperity: spirit, soul and body. Unless we know God first, it is hard or yet even impossible to know who we are in our fullest capacity.

In the continuing article, I described what I call our Godly relationship with ourselves. This is key because as we know God, He makes Himself known to us to the point of wanting to be one with us. When we are connected with Him this way, there comes the communion we have with Him: our human spirit aligning with God’s Spirit and we become one together. We become “God-carriers” while He carries us. It is for this reason that Jesus was named “Immanuel” meaning “God with us” and “we are with Him”.

In this current article, I will describe Godly relationships with others. Note that when we are aligned with God vertically, our relationship with others horizontally become aligned in a Godly way forming a cross where we are centered in Jesus, Not only we are doing good for ourselves and others, we are doing Godly things for all. Therefore, everything we do Godly are good.

FATHER GOD

Others <——JESUS——> Others

HOLY SPIRIT

Thus, there is harmony and unity in every area of our relationships: God, Ourselves and Others. Why? This is because our soul (mind, will and emotion) submits to Him causing transformation inside. This is when our soul surrenders to the renewed human spirit where the Spirit of the Living God is dwelling. Thus, our mindset is based on God’s mind; our hearts beating and loving like Him, even our desires in congruent with God’s desires and our will is totally in synch with Christ which is perfectly what God’s will is for us. There is no room for errors since everything begins and ends with God including all things in between. This is the best and only way to live which is the spirit-led life.

The problem arises when we live based on the untransformed soul which is in control grieving the spirit realm. In simple terms, when one is in conflict with others, it is clearly rooted in their conflict with their own self and their conflict with God.

Note that before our spirit is renewed or transformed, the body, soul and spirit are all in the fallen nature. When we become alive in the spirit, war inside begins between the soul and body against the spirit. When the body and soul win, we open up ourselves to curses, conflict, failure, poverty, sickness and broken relationships. In reverse, when the spirit wins, we open up ourselves to blessings, unity/harmony, success, prosperity, wholeness and healthy relationships that are good and Godly with others, ourselves and with God.

For example, an angry person (not just one time angry but there are patterns that formed their habits, character and destiny) who expresses his or her negative and destructive emotions to others are first of all angry with God and have deep seated anger towards self.

On the reverse, a joyful person receives overflowing joy from God which then becomes overflowing joy to himself or herself. Others are benefited by this overflowing joy supernaturally and naturally receive joy as a result. Joy then multiplies in abundance.

Unfortunately, we all fall short of these and too many of us have many issues and conflicts in life; personally, maritally, family, economically, socially, financially, politically and even spiritually.

This brings us to what many people ask:

“How to have Godly relationships with others.”

The following are very practical yet biblical approach in disciplining yourself to be Godly.

A. Activate your access to the Spirit realm by receiving Jesus as your Lord and Savior.

Prayer: Lord Jesus, I invite you in my heart and life. Please activate my spirit to be one with your Spirit.

B. Believe in Jesus’ finished work on the cross. He died for our sins so we can be reconciled back and be one with God.

Prayer: Thank you Jesus for your gift of forgiveness reconciling us back to God and granting us eternal life in heaven.

C. Confess, admit and acknowledge when you think, say or do are not Godly. The Holy Spirit brings you conviction. Thus, we become aware when we are not lined up with God. Nip it in the bud as the thought comes. Our minds is our “Pray-ground” with and for God. This is a sure win all the time. It is not a “Play-ground or battlefield for the devil.” That is a sure defeat for you. If the thought became a word or action, admit and acknowledge by confessing the wrong and ask for forgiveness from God and others. Forgive yourself too.

Prayer: Forgive me Lord for: (Please write down things you want the Lord to forgive you specifically in thoughts, words or deeds and even those things you failed to do).

Ask forgiveness from others and remember to release and forgive yourself as well.

D. Do Godly ways. You are only liable for the responses you are able to deliver. Respond in Godly ways. When we take full responsibility for ourselves, we do and act Godly and we become “better” people. It is also antidotes to becoming “bitter” people. We become better examples of ourselves and a very good example for others to follow. Do not accuse, blame or condemn others. These are from the pits of hell. The devil is the “Accuser of the brethren”. His job is to accuse, blame, condemn, deceive, etc., just to name a few.

Prayer: God, help me to do your will, and your ways obeying your commandments contained in your Word in the Scriptures.

E. Enable the Holy Spirit to rule in your human spirit thereby defeating your soul (what you think, what you desire and what you feel). Listen to the Holy Spirit’s voice giving you wisdom and guidance. Cooperate just like how Jesus showed in the scriptures and follow along His example in the Bible. Remember the acronyms “WWJD” (What Would Jesus Do)? Better yet you can go a few steps deeper such as “WWJT” (What Would Jesus Think); “WWJS” (What Would Jesus Say); etc.

Prayer: Holy Spirit, I surrender all. Lead me, guide me, use me and fill me to the full.

F. Follow me Jesus. He is on the winning team not the whining team. Following Jesus is to choose life not death; blessings over curses; seek truth and not lies. Remember, Jesus does not take sides. He takes over. And when you let Jesus lead you, you have His success because “Jesus is the way, the truth and the life”.

Note that I did not say just follow the church or any sect/denomination or any religious affiliation. If you were to follow such, make sure that they are following Jesus not just the tradition or ways of men.

Lead others to follow Jesus so they become your friends in Christ not enemies.

Prayer: As I follow Jesus, help me to bring others to Jesus.

G. Gratitude-driven life attracts more blessings. Thankfulness is a magnet to living a blessed life. Count your blessings and expect your blessings. You get what you expect and this is true for the reverse negative mindset leading to ungratefulness preventing blessings to continue pouring out in you.

Prayer: Jehovah El Shaddai, thank you for what you have done: yesterday, today and tomorrow. Thank you for your protection, provision and purpose-driven destiny you gave me.

H. Have a humble heart. Humility always brings reconciliation, unity and community. The opposite of humility is pride. Pride brings unnecessary conflict and strife/division leading to destruction.

Prayer: Merciful God, forgive me for my pride, soften my heart and make me humble.

I. Intimacy in Relationships result as the bonding is strengthened and deepened.

Prayer: Father God, deepen my personal relationship with you and with others.

The greatest gift you can share to someone is the Gift of Love in the Trinity. First, intimate relationship to receive the unconditional love of God the Father; second, the “dunamis” (so powerful like a dynamite) power coming from the Holy Spirit and third; the grace of the Lord, Jesus Christ.

“Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.” Romans 13:8

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Golden Rule To be continued in the next article.

Always choose “On A Bright Side”. I love you readers with the love of the Lord yet God loves you the most. Smile and be a blessing. . .

Rev. Nancy H. Abiera