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Rejected or Elected


By: Nancy Abiera


“If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before [it hated] you.” John 15:18 “When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.” Psalms 27:10

Have you experienced being rejected? No one is exempted. Rejection stings to the deepest part of your being. When one is rejected, it feels like no value or devalued as if you are nobody that does not even exist; and worst, no one dares to even care.

The hardest rejection to deal with is when someone you trusted and loved the most betrayed you. I happen to experience myself some of these. I also hear personally from some people who were rejected and abandoned by their fathers when they were still babies. Some fathers even left before they were born. On some situations, they have fathers yet they’re there but not there. Others are so hurt that they can’t even call them dad but just sperm donors. Moreover, others were rejected in school, work place or even at home by a parent, sibling, school mates, lovers, etc. I defi ne feeling REJECTED as follows:

R. Resisted &

E. Excluded

J. Jeopardized

E. Excessively

C. Chastised

T. Terribly

E. Embarrassed &

D. Dismissed

Rejection drives people to identity, performance, as well as role confusion. I heard Denzel Washington posted on Facebook: “Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons.” When men reject you, it may mean that God elects you for a higher and brighter calling. Thus, we can respond differently when rejected by having a new perspective. I learned early in life that people develop this attitude of rejecting people because they were rejected fi rst. It is like my own paraphrase of the Golden Rule: “Do it to others what has been done to you.” Often times, it has nothing to do with you at all. On the good side, rejection may be a blessing in disguise for ELECTION. Not by people but by God Himself. He does not give you more than you can handle and He knows fully well your strengths as well as your limitations.

“He (Jesus) is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were [our] faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.” Isaiah 53:3

Thus, I came up with a positive and creative response in place of letting rejection to have domino effect on us and others, I chose ELECTION with the following defi nition:

E. Exclusively

L. Led &

E. Exceptionally

C. Chosen as

T. Trustworthy &

E. Endorsed for

D. Destiny By God

The Good News is: People’s rejection may be an opportunity for God’s election. Remember, if God is for you, who can be against you? Let us all be on God’s side where there is victory and winnings all the time.

Always choose “On A Bright Side”. I love you readers with the love of the Lord yet the Lord loves you the most. Smile and be a blessing.

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